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    Almost a year on, I have moved on from the concept of divorce and separation and on to how it affects my daily life.  Before school got out, It wasn't so bad.  The occasional nagging about how the wireless network was down but that only took 5 minutes max.  Now its everything.  Before the separation, my mom would yell "bear", or "david".  Now its me.  She met a nice dog at the coffee shop, I have to hear about the breed, age, color, even about the owner.  She's trapped by bureaucracy, I hear one more reason why I should hate it.  She's had a crappy day at work, my next 30 minutes are crappy because I can't believe how I came to be in this position.  And its even worse now that she has a full-time job.  She's more tired and has less patience.  Her husband leaves her and I get all of his conversational duties. 


I can't wait until I leave for college and I can escape such BS rantings and ravings.
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icklefickle
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Time:2008-06-16 04:02 am (UTC)
God, I know exactly what you mean. Living with a single parent can definitely be trying. I always agonize because I know I shouldn't have to be my mom's sounding board, but also realize that she doesn't have anyone else. You might try encouraging her to talk to/get together with friends more, though that can be hard for single parents. Or maybe just telling her sometimes, "I'm sorry you had a bad day at work, but I can't take on all your stress (or I need to ____ now)." I think it's important to listen for five minutes if you can, just not for fifty. But to a large extent, it's just something you have to live with and it's very stressful. Make sure you have a good independent support network and take care of yourself. And cut yourself some slack when everyday things set you off more than it seems like they should. You're operating at a higher base stress level than many people so it takes less to push the stress level into the intolerable range. It's kinda like having constant PMS. Anyway, hang in there. *hugs**
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007freak
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Time:2008-06-17 07:56 pm (UTC)
It is hardly worth it to be blunt. I would rather feign interest and get the hell out as soon as possible rather than put her in bad mood just because I was wanted to be candid.


It sure would be nice to get her something that just nodded, smiled, and said "no, its not your fault".
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