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i'm 15 next month ..... my parents have been seperated for 11 years and theyere sevorce was finalised when i was in 6 th class 3 yrs ago ..... my dad moved away 256 km away actually ... he was gone for a while and i didnt know if he was dating .. if he was in rehab for his alocoholism or if he was dead .. i honestly thought he might have bin .. but one day after school he just tuened up .. i noticed a ring on one of his fingers that looked kinda new but it said love on it i asked could i look at uit .. and on the indide i read PETER ++ REGINA ..... he says to me reginas the person i'm dating well actually shes mt fiancé ..... your gona be a bridesmaid ... right ?.....  i didnt have any idea what to say to that .. since ive only ever seen my parents happy and not fighting once or twice ... when i was  in hospital and didnt want me to see tham figting ,.... i went to the weeding and got prety shook up about it .. i cried alot that day but when my dad came over or my stepmum i just said I'M JUST HAPPY FOR YOUS ...... but my granny on my dads side knew i was upset so she got my aunt to bring me for a drive to get outa there ..... 

i still dont like the fact that he re married .. 



but i love her daughter shes lovely... shes absolutly awesome .....her parents have had ... problems too ..

i was upset ovr christmas and my year head has aske me to go to the counciller .... should i go ??


thanks peoples if youve read this .... <3
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whereyouwalk
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Time:2008-02-08 11:08 pm (UTC)
If you feel like you need to go to the counselor, go. I went to a counselor after my parents separated and it helped me alot. I had talked to my friends about my parents separating, but they weren't able to help me a lot since all their parents are still together. My counselor really just listened a lot at first when I could really just vent everything I was feeling. Barbara (my counselor) helped me a lot dealing with my parents (she helped me to start talking to my mom about how I was feeling and such) and she helped with other problems that I had to deal with with friends. After my experience, I think everybody could use a talk with a counselor in their life just becuase it gives you someone to really talk to without them judging you and it's good to get advice from someone outside of your problems. If you're still unsure, just think, it doesn't hurt to go, right?
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anne07213
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Time:2008-02-09 01:57 am (UTC)
My mom offered to bring me to a counselor when my parents divorced, and looking back on it, I wish I had. If you feel like you need to talk to someone and you feel like you can completely open up to your friends or someone else in your family, great. If you feel like you need to talk to someone and you want to talk to someone who is objective and completely removed from the situation, try a counselor. It took me two months to open up to my closest friends and tell them my parents were getting a divorce, and another two months to finally tell the rest of my friends. I really think that if I had talked to a counselor, it would have made it a lot easier to talk about it with other people.
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icklefickle
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Time:2008-02-09 05:30 am (UTC)
Okay, here's my own biased opinion based on my own experience. It really helps (I believe it's essential to maintaining any sort of stability in fact) to talk to someone about all the crap that seems so hard to take and all the confusion. And I mean actually put the shit out on the table, not just hint at it. In my case, I found that security with a teacher who I went to out of complete desperation. I also ended up going to see a counselor-type and found her much less useful as she didn't know me as well and it didn't quite work. I think I also preferred knowing that someone out there cared enough to listen to my truckload of problems without being paid to do so (as a counselor is). So based on whether you think you'll be comfortable, etc. with the counselor, you really could go either way. But I would definitely say go to someone. It's awkward and hard, but worth it.

And of course we are always happy to "listen" too.
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youre_my_moon
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Time:2008-02-09 02:43 pm (UTC)
thank you for your opinions ... i think i will go ... its doesnt hurt ... i might just feel alot better .. my teacher knows my family arent the wealthyest ppl around with my mums health problems and me living wiht my nan ... she offered to bring me to the school counciler .... i guess ill go ... ive been told shes lovely .. and dnt exacly know her either ...
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